The darkness, the secrets, the shame and embarrassment. The pain and despair, the fear and doubt.The nasty thoughts, the self-sabotage. Your messy relationship, your long-term singlehood, your disastrous break-up. The anxiety you hide behind a smile. The depression you call “just tired.” The debt you joke about but secretly fear.

No amount of meditating, self-regulation, self-optimization, positive thinking, affirmative mantras, mindfulness, breathwork, impulse control strategies, cognitive reframing, communication techniques, or energetic frequency-raising will heal the underlying wounded emotions that led you to practice these things in the first place. These emotions need to be felt, loved, understood, and re-parented from a place of mature self-responsibility and curiosity. Otherwise, we stay in victim-based loops of self-betrayal masked as whatever cover-up story we tell ourselves and others.

Spiritual teachers often counsel us not to cling to the victim stories of the mind when seeking enlightenment. But if you are also seeking to heal your wounded self, I offer another path:Detach from the fleeting moods, stories, and surface feelings of the mind. These are only echoes; not the origin. Go deeper. Beneath the noise & the drama lives the true little Victim. The one hiding in the tender, unconscious landscape of your heart, where real pain & unmet needs remain. Sit with them. Feel them with as much love and presence as you can. Offer them all the nourishment, protection, and understanding they were once denied. Give them everything they needed but didn’t receive. So that, in time, they no longer have to seek your attention through noisy drama on the surface.Do not try to simply transcend your suffering. What you are trying to transcend is the soulfulness of your eternal true sacred Self. Your SoulSelf.

One who has healed their emotional wounds to a critical depth,

Our mind can develop ideas and thoughts about all-that-is. Our intuition gives us glimpses of all-that-is. After mental-body enlightenment and will-body enlovenment, we become felt knowledge -heart-wisdom- AS all-that-is. From there, the journey to full integration and embodiment in our daily life and relationships is long, challenging and deeply worthwhile.

If you always find yourself in the same patterns and life circumstances,you may be stuck in a trauma loop.

We suffer from Duality;from being victims and perpetrators;from states of war;from a world where there are hunters and hunted;where we have to cope with constant instability & uncertainty;where there is poor and rich; sick and healthy; strong and weak;faithful and treacherous and many more to navigate,only because deep down we are convinced that all our suffering is a duality to Love;that suffering is an opposite; a contradiction to Love.But there is no Dualism to Love.Ultimate Love is that, which holds and contains nonduality as well as unity as well duality including dichotomy.Nothing of what we as humans experience 

1. offering: You can worship as many gods as you like.

Your day-to-day problems are the pathway to your defense strategies.

The way to heaven leads through hell.